This month’s synchroblog theme is ordinary courage. Not to be confused with heroics, ordinary courage is the act of revealing our true heart. We usually call it vulnerability. The links to other posts on the topic are located at the end of this article.
The most courageous thing we will ever do is not some selfless act on behalf of another, but rather, simply revealing our own true self.
That takes guts because there is some weird, dark stuff inside of me. A lot of people would probably judge me based on that stuff. That’s why you don’t know more about the weird, dark gunk in my life. That’s why we know so little about each other.
I will flash a little underwear your way every now and then, while some people never even loosen their tie. There are a few gutsy souls who are ready to reveal the full monty at the drop of the hat.
It’s great to have a friend who is straight with you and doesn’t ever pretend to be something she is not, but it can be overdone if it is a compulsive behavior detached from good judgment. Nobody wants to see naked people (or their every emotion, thought and experience) all the time. But generally, vulnerability is rare because we think it is so dangerous.
Yet, there is joy in self-revelation. It takes away the power of our secrets and opens the door for others to feel normal again. Great writers know that. They can take you deep inside their head and heart. That’s why great writing is a lot like bleeding.
I have a friend who refers to himself as emotional flasher. A childhood filled with moves and frequently changing schools led him to take a “Here is who I am. Take it or leave it.” attitude. It was his honesty that led me to reach out to him. Eventually, we worked on an ongoing project together. He is unorthodox, funny, off-the-wall, incredibly insightful, and generally a fun dude to be around.
Our survival instinct leads us to protect ourselves, rather than to be open about who we really are. People who act like they are perfect really worry me and they are anything but encouraging, but people who reveal their issues bring hope to others who struggle with the same things.
I can’t wait for the Google searches to roll in on this title.
Here are the links to all of the other great posts on the topic:
This Is Courage by Jen Bradbury
Being Vulnerable by Phil Lancaster
Moving Forward Takes Courage by Paul W. Meier
Ordinary Courage by Elaine Hansen
Courage, Hope, Generosity by Carol Kuniholm
The Courage to Fail by Wendy McCaig
The Greatest Act of Courage by Jeremy Myers
Sharing One’s Heart by K. W. Leslie
All I See Is Rocks by Tim Nichols
I Wonder What Would Happen by Liz Dyer
What is Ordinary Courage? by Jennifer Stahl
Loving Courageously by Doreen A. Mannion
Heart Cry: The Courage to Confess by Elizabeth Chapin
The Act to the Miraculous by VisionHub
the spiritual practice of showing up & telling the truth by Kathy Escobar